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10 Things Women Should Have Done or Experienced by 40


Are you suddenly realizing you are 40, or worse yet, over 40 and there are some things in this life you haven't yet experienced and wished you already had? You listen to your friends' chatter and secretly wish you had tried those things already. Or, you listen and think to yourself, Oh My God, I'm glad I haven't tried any of that!


I learn from all my experiences: good, bad, or indifferent. I know what I will do repeatedly, what I won't EVER think of doing again, and, well, those that I can only dream about from here on. Because, there are things, that no matter how much you'd like to do them again, you know it ain't right, healthy, safe, or body-forgiving. So leave it alone (say that in s-l-o-w m-o-t-i-o-n). And then there are others that are just a part of life, whether we want them to exist yes or no.


Let's reminisce, embrace and explore our 40's (and over), as it's not an age to be afraid of. It's an age for us to do a whole lot more, with a whole-lot-a confidence and spunk. Cause wi dun know what wi want and what wi don't want (please click google translate for this). Well for most things. Sometimes we still get confused. Well I know I do.

In the last 2 weeks, I've given you an idea of what I think women over 40 should not have (the purge) and what women over 40 should have (the transition). This week I'll talk about a few things I think every woman 40 and over should have at least experienced or done already. You know, like the touchy, feely kinda things; the things make you go hmmm in some cases and well, the things that make you wonder about yourself.


Below are my top 10, in no particular order. Feel free to try the ones you haven't done yet and share some of your experiences with me so I can go try some new stuff; we can create a new bucket list of things to go experience and talk about them. Who's with me?


Anyhoos, here goes my list of 10...


1. An 'Oh Lord Save Me' Kiss

One of those toe-curling, sweat-producing, heart-racing, baggy (panty) dropping kisses that lets you believe you died and went to heaven on a yacht with all of the bells and whistles and trimmings of all sorts️. One that reminds you that passion is an actual feeling and not a figment of your imagination. Hmmm. YASSS. One of those.


Oh dear me, I think this should have been my last point because I've now forgotten all the other things. Yikes!


Ok. I'm back and since I am on this trajectory, let me add these other two right here.

2. A lover/partner who knows the when, what, where, and how with a dash of surprise

No further explanation is needed.


3. A lover/partner that knows how to bring out your WILD side.

Enough said. Well. Please be reminded that your bones ain't that easy to set at this age so don't go breaking anything. Just a thought.


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4. An Act of Great Stupidity

Remember when motor vehicles use to have that lighter thingamajig, some may still have it, not so sure. Well, one day I decided I needed to see if it really works and so I proceeded to take it out and stick my finger on it, geezaaz, (and to think I had a witness too; hope to God he doesn't remember. Folks, let me tell you, if that wasn't a stupid act I don't know what was, and trust me when I say, just writing about it makes me re-live the experience. Geezam pees.


5. An Impactful Emotional Loss

A loss so great that it breaks you in order to remind you that you are human, that you need to slow down and spend more time with your family and friends. A loss that reminds you that you need to enjoy the here and now because you never know what tomorrow brings. I've had 3 in recent years; my husband and my father, 15 years apart, same month, 3 days date difference, and one of my besties, who everybody kept saying we were look-a-likes. This is one of the reasons why I said, in last week's article, that having real friends is extremely important to me.

In the end, we'll only regret the chances we didn't take. Like...

6. Skinny Dipping

Unless you have the body of your former teenage years or a current one without the frills and extras, I think you may want to leave this one alone if you haven't experienced it yet. But that's just me, maybe you're the more adventurous, don't give a rats-ass, kinda person. In which case, go right ahead and enjoy your darn self.


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7. Conquer a Fear

Some amount of fear is healthy I believe but it must not be so debilitating that you can't function. Wellllllll, I conquered one of mine years ago.